Reflections on Personal Boundaries and Achievements
I often ponder upon my boundaries, my abilities, and my achievements. Have
they changed since I grew up, or graduated from a business school, or gotten
married? Does moving to a first world country, on a dependent visa, make any
of these any easier or more complicated?

Equal Opportunities: Reality or Illusion?
The Concept of Equal Opportunities
They talk about equal opportunities, but is there really anything
like that in this real world? Or is it only for the few?
A Matter of perspective
Maybe it’s a perspective, a rather construed one; where I see what I want to see, where I judge my prospects as per my
convenience- or for the lack of it.
The Resilienceof Women from Developing Nations
Not Vulnerable, But Resilient
Don’t get me wrong! Not every
girl from a developing nation is
vulnerable or helpless. On the
contrary she is rather resilient
in her approach.
Quintessential Go-Getters
She is a quintessential go-
getter, although may not be by
choice always. Many of us find
light in the dark and achieve
our dreams.
Unfavorable Circumstances
However, there are many who due to unfavorable circumstances, can’t.

The Trapped Fly Analogy
The Trapped Fly
I see the latter as a fly trapped in a house for days at stretch, buzzing around like a prom queen in her silver stilettos.
Overstayed Welcome
But once that fly has overstayed her welcome and is discovered, her joyous life is stunted.
Quest for Escape
She desperately tries to find that one opening, whirring and pounding on the glass sill, in her quest to escape; her
dramatic emancipation.
Unparallel Grit
Have you ever seen such a fly escape? If you have, you would know what I mean. But, if you have ever tried to squat
such a fly, then you would know it’s a battle not many have won. The sheer grit to survive is unparallel.
The Journey of Making it
Starting with Low Self-Esteem
They may have very low self-esteem left by the time they reach the pinnacle of this journey, but there is a lot of
exhilaration too;
Finding Different Paths
But most find solace in raising offspring, in supporting families, in half-baked careers, or in taking up courses in hope
of boosting their careers.
Achieving success
But, it’s not always that grim. Like I said earlier, some of us do ‘make it’ big.
The Personal Victory
Because no matter what, in her mind, she’s ‘made it’!
The Ongoing Struggle
Initial Freedom
She appears free at first, but like a fly’s flight, this freedom is
temporary.
Recurring Traps
She’s often trapped, whether by her own flight patterns or her
constant fight for external validation.
Lasting Imapact
The cycle continues, perpetuated by that lingering low self-
esteem, never truly achieving complete freedom.

The Vicious Circle
Trapped in a cycle
Evidently, it’s a vicious circle that one may find themselves in.
Using the Brain
But the key is to keep one’s heart aside, and only use their
brain.
The Heart's Dilemma
Because had a fly listened to her heart, she would still be
merrily sitting on that sticky, gooey, delicious sweet and never
bothered about been squatted.


Embracing the Challenge
But what fun would that be?!
This final question encapsulates the spirit of embracing challenges and
growth, despite the difficulties faced along the way.